Welcome to BTB!
So its been a while and I took a bit of a break form doing anything that was RP related. I focused on mesh clothes making and I am happy to say I am getting there.
That being said I got some new ideas! So let’s see how it pans out.
As the title suggests I am in BTB! WOO! BTB! GE gor wasnt panning out when it comes to RP so let’s see what you BTB boys got eh?
So far my impression its been an absolute blast! So much rp I cant even keep up at times and the City of Svago let me just say. Two thumbs up on capabilities when it comes to keeping a boy busy!
Trial and Error. The horrors of perception and the troubles it causes.
To get into gor again was a little bit of trial and error. I myself don’t look like a typical male and my character is a bit unique in appearance. The same goes for my brother Kai. We took our time spending months trying to find a sim and Kai finally found one he really liked.
Kai is about as picky as I am when it comes to how our avatars look and feel. We want to be comfortable in our own skin so to speak. We both play adult avatars and our character shapes are over 7ft tall in world. This being said we are a bi ton the lithe side using a more Asian build and Asian style faces which makes us seem youthful. This draws us a lot of criticism.
Kai visited a sim named Varn to have a look around pick up the rules and see what the characters looked like. Now, mind you he looked a bit different because he was coming from another part of SL to visit the sim and he talked to some of the admin there. He knew he was going to have to make some avatar adjustments but without even telling him they banned him right after he left the sim!
Very tolerant eh? You tell a person they need to make adjustments to their avatar because your not comfortable with how they look and ban them without saying a word? Kai finds out because he can’t tp back to show me the sim later and that was the first red flag. They didnt bother to get to know him or tell him. It was an estate ban right after he got their information and left. There seems to be a lot of fear mongering about ‘child’ avatars in SL.There was a sim owner that was shut down because there were child like avatars or femboys at the sim. Someone accused him of not so pleasant things and LL had him banned and he lost all his lands and people scrabbled to rebuild what was lost.
Before I got into more detail let’s take a look at the SL terms of child avatar definition. As in the SL ToS under section 6.3 (viii):
(viii) Post, display or transmit any material, object or text that encourages, represents, or facilitates sexual “age play,” i.e., using child-like avatars in a sexualized manner. This activity is grounds for immediate termination. You may review our full Age Play Policy here. You understand and agree that we may report any and all such incidents — and any and all of your corresponding personal information — to any authorities we deem appropriate, whether or not it in and of itself violates the law of your (or any) jurisdiction; or
Let’s continue and look at the age play policy and see if there is anything to determine about avatar looks. The above states nothing other than child-like avatars this leaves it wide open to too many personal opinions.
So the following information comes up from the Age Play Policy link:
This article addresses questions regarding Linden Lab’s policy regarding sexual “ageplay” (depictions of, or engagement in, sexualized conduct with avatars that resemble children). This practice is disallowed by the Community Standards due to complaints from Residents and international laws, so it’s important to understand the definitions.
Under our Community Standards policy, real-life images, avatar portrayals, and other depictions of sexual or lewd acts involving or appearing to involve children or minors are not allowed within Second Life. When detected, individuals and groups promoting or providing such content and activities will be subject to sanctions, which may include termination of accounts, closure of groups, removal of content, and loss of land or access to land.
There are three key aspects involved in these materials or acts that are in breach of the Community Standards:
- Participation by Residents in lewd or sexual acts in which one or more of the avatars appears to represent minors (or the depiction of such acts in images, video, textures, or text) is a violation of the Community Standards.
- Promoting or catering to such behavior or representations violates our Community Standards. For instance, the placement of avatars appearing to represent minors in proximity to “sex beds” or other sexualized graphics, objects, or scripts would violate our Community Standards, as would the placement of sexualized “pose balls” or other content in areas depicting playgrounds or children’s spaces.
- The graphic depiction of children in a sexual or lewd manner violates our Community Standards.
Linden Lab reserves the right to immediately terminate the accounts of Residents who violate these standards.
In some cases there may be an element of subjectivity as to whether an avatar (or other image) appears to be a minor. Objective factors which will be used to decide, including whether an avatar has childlike facial features, is child-sized, has clothing or accessories generally associated with children, and whether, based on the circumstances, an avatar is speaking or acting like a child (“My Mommy says…”).
So let’s dig into this a little more and look at the Community standards. The documentation for these standards have something called The Big Six. These are an over arching guide to how people should be conducting themselves in SL. There is no mention here of ageplay or children avatars on this page. There is however rule 5 of the big six that talks about maturity ratings. So let’s go here shall we!
A region designated General is not allowed to advertise or make available content or activity that is sexually explicit, violent, or depicts nudity. Sexually-oriented objects such as “sex beds” or poseballs may not be located or sold in General regions.
General regions are areas where you should feel free to say and do things that you would be comfortable saying and doing in front of your grandmother or a grade school class. Institutions such as universities, conference organizers, and real world businesses may wish to designate their regions as General. Likewise their users (and others) may wish to employ Second Life’s General search setting to focus and filter search results appropriately.
Some landowners and Residents desire a Second Life experience distinct from the activity that occurs in Moderate and Adult regions. Region owners who wish to host this sort of Second Life experience can (but need not) designate their regions as General.
If you are a region owner and you feel there is some ambiguity as to whether your content and activities are allowed in General regions, it’s probably best to designate your region as Moderate.
Second Life’s Moderate designation accommodates most of the non-adult activities common in Second Life. Dance clubs, bars, stores and malls, galleries, music venues, beaches, parks, and other spaces for socializing, creating, and learning all support a Moderate designation so long as they do not host publicly promoted adult activities or content and do not use adult search tags. Groups, events and classifieds that relate to this broad range of activities and themes generally should also be designated as Moderate.
Residents in these spaces should therefore expect to see a variety of themes and content. Stores that sell a range of content that includes some “sexy” clothing or objects can generally reside in Moderate rather than Adult regions. Dance clubs that feature “burlesque” acts can also generally reside in Moderate regions as long as they don’t promote sexual conduct, for instance through pose balls (whether in “backrooms” or more visible spaces). However if any of these businesses uses adult-oriented search tags, the region may be categorized as Adult and blocked from appearing in non-Adult search.
The Adult designation applies to Second Life regions that host, conduct, or display content that is sexually explicit, intensely violent, or depicts illicit drug use. A region must be designated Adult if it hosts, advertises, or publicly promotes:
- Representations of intensely violent acts, for example depicting death, torture, dismemberment or other severe bodily harm, whether or not photo-realistic (meaning that images either are or cannot be distinguished from a photograph).
- Photo-realistic nudity.
- Expressly sexually themed content, spaces or activities, whether or not photo-realistic. We broadly define what is “sexually themed” to include any sexually oriented activities and conduct.
Groups, event listings and classified ads that reference these themes or content must also be designated Adult. Linden Lab will enforce these rules but cannot monitor all ephemeral content and conduct within Second Life. Therefore:
- Regions, groups, and event or classified ad listings that employ search tags plainly suggestive of adult behavior or content require the Adult designation, and will be viewable only by Residents that are at least 18 years old.
- Linden Lab will conduct proactive monitoring and rely on abuse reports that identify adult content or conduct that is promoted or advertised publicly. Where adult content or conduct on a region is publicly advertised or promoted, that region must be designated as Adult (or such content must be removed). We will re-designate such regions if adult content is not removed.
- Linden Lab may take into account whether apparent or reported adult content or conduct in a particular region serves only an extremely limited or passive function, or an important educational or cultural function, and therefore would be appropriate for all Second Life audiences.
- As with all reported activity in violation of our policies, we will actively review all reports of adult conduct and provide Residents with a channel for rebuttal.
Parcels that host adult activities or contain adult content must be on:
- The adult mainland continent, Zindra.
- A private region that has been designated by its owner as Adult.
Region owners are responsible for designating a region’s maturity level. Occupants of regions will be expected to locate in a region suitable to each occupant’s content and conduct.
For more information on what qualifies as adult content, see Adult Content FAQ.
Wow! So much information but where am I going with this rant? Well first of all a child avatar is a matter of opinion but being in an adult region means you are age verified as 18+ as a real life person. So long as you have an avatar that is not acting like a child or looks like a child and wearing items that would have you classified as a child then you are NOT a child avatar. Just because someone says they are not comfortable with how you look and you are portraying yourself as a full grown person you can not be called a child avatar.
I have highlighted a few things here and will state my opinion on the matter. So long as a person is of proper height to be an adult, has a body that is defined as an adult (with or with out muscles) and plays as an adult. They are an adult. having a lithe build and slightly feminine look for a male does NOT make them a child avatar. Kai was turned away even AFTER making adjustments to his avatar. He used almost my identical shape and skin which had defined abs and pectoral muscles and was told that he looked like a child. He was taller than even some of the people judging him and nothing in his profile or how he acted (other than his normal shy self) made him a child. It came down to if they felt comfortable with him or not and it was determined not.
We have played for a year now in gor with no issues and I have seen others that were pushing the limits of child avatar in gor more so than a thin asian build could ever do. I am sad to say that this sim did have a bit of a knee jerk reaction to him when they first met him and gave him little chance until I spoke with the admins. It boiled down to they wanted him to change everything about his avatar just for their sim and that is their right. However they used the SL child avatar rules as a guide. We will never be the broad chested square chin muscle masses that that sim wants and so we moved on.
What is the purpose of this rant? First I wanted to advocate for the more femboy look and yes its a balancing act when you are playing games like gor. Gor by far is the most strict place in SL for any femboy. There are plenty of other RP sims that welcome the normally femboy community but Gor has certain standards that it holds men too. It tends to be the larger more muscled men with square jaws and very masculine. People are very hung up on looks and can misjudge a person quickly based on simple avatar looks or having their own beautiful standards. its a diverse community however what I want to express is dont just outright ban someone after meeting them the first time because your scared.
The admins of Varn made a mistake. They should not have banned him to such an extreme for the first time simply because he looked how he did. I did talk to them and brought Kai back to their sim and no changes pleased them. Even I was accused of looking super young and barely legal. This is very funny as I have not changed my looks much other than using a Slink Mesh body and Mesh Project body. I and Kai have been through many accepting sims because we are verified adults behind 2 adult avatars that are not played as children in any sense of the word. I would throw a hint of caution to those that play about going to a sim that ban’s first without open communication even if there was no real infraction on rules.
So now what?!
And now for the good news! Kai and I have settled at a sim named Svago as two thralls int he House of Cain. I can say that I am completely pleased with the standards of RP on the sim. The people are friendly though there are a few minor hiccups I can over look. (There may be some comics coming out about these hiccups lol)
Overall they are a group of people dedicated to RP. They all seem to carry long running story lines and work to interact with other sims to keep these stories going. There has not been a moment where I can not find something to do or RP yet on this sim and I am always pulled into one thing or another thanks to the girls in the slavers house!
You can check out some of the fun in the new Kaz’s Adventures section (Soapy Situation). Here I will be posting some of the RP that I have taken part in when I find it rather amusing. be warned there might be other background RP going on as generally there are a lot of people in different area’s posting. I will try to clean these out of the logs when I am not being lazy!
For now thanks for reading my rant and feel free to IM me in world if you would like to stop by the wonder city of Svago for a good time!